As a 25 year old male I am wondering when these feelings will fade, or if I need to sleep with as many women as possible in order to get tired of these sexual urges.
In my experience it is not about me sleeping with one woman multiple times, I have had fantastic faithful sex 3 days a week and I still am addicted to thoughts of new women.
I love women, everyone of them is like a new smell and new perspectives on life
I am helpless to my reptilian part of my brain.
I have self control but it sucks, If I could spend the rest of my life on a tropical island banging women I would do it no questions asked
when will these urges stop?
I am in a really great relationship. My girl and I talk about everything and she knows I wanna bang every other woman and she never tells me anything if I am checking them out. But I wanna stop. I hate walking around and having my eyes go in the direction of every hot ass and tits around. It's annoying and especially at work even inappropriate. Maybe is my age, but I don't find it cool anymore.
I suspect this is why men used to join hunting lodges and other men-only organizations. To get away not just from their women, but from all women.
I remember the aged poet Sophocles, when in answer to the question, How does love suit with age, Sophocles, -- are you still the man you were? Peace, he replied; most gladly have I escaped the thing of which you speak; I feel as if I had escaped the tyranny of a mad and furious master.
Plato, Republic
Fighting our nature is man's largest struggle to be civilized. when will these urges stop? When you're dead.Think of all the things you could accomplish if you only thought about sex HALF of the time.
It seems that women have the same issues as men I don't know what it is so much as you realizing you're just an animal (like all men seem to realize early on) and shedding the "princess" cruft that society puts on all women.
I'm a 43 woman and am having a ball fucking around. I have kids and have even slept with guys younger the my eldest son. My body isn't as hot as it was when I was 20 but I know how to use and don't have any hang ups like when I was young and didn't realize I was hot. After so many years of boring married sex I want wild ass fucking from someone with stamina! I'm loving anal, mwm, wwm, bondage and all the things I was too scared of before. I've made love enough times in my life to appreciate a good fucking. Go for those cougars guys!
So biologically speaking, it is normal for guys to want to screw all of the girls that are remotely attractive to them. I get that. But if you are one of these guys who knows that you will not be able to stay in a monogamous relationship, make that clear as day to the girls you are pursuing because those that want committed relationships don't want to waste our time on guys who will leave them wondering what the hell happened.
Sometimes we do tell the ladies...most of the time they ignore it or don't listen or think were joking or something. I dunno how many times I've told a girl "I'm not interested in anything serious with anyone" or "I don't want a girlfriend right now just doing my own thing".....but still EVERY time...there are problems. I dunno if ladies think they can change you or find it a challenge...but they sure as hell don't listen. And they never think that it hurts us. I didn't want to end up a jerk. I really liked you. We just weren't on the same level...and now you hate me...even when I warned you before hand.
Women have noticed from observing other women that telling them this gives them some sort of desire to live out a chick flick in which they're told that you don't want anything serious and somehow they become the one girl in the world that you were searching for the entire time. Thanks, Hollywood.
If a guy bones every woman he wants to, he will most likely have an orgasm every single time.
If a woman bones every guy she wants to, it's highly unlikely she'll have orgasms even most of the time.
My theory is women are more selective because good sex is harder to find. Combine that with pregnancy, diseases, and the sheer fact that 90% of men are stronger than us, and that's a pretty damn good reasonnot to fuck everyone who's willing.
Women who go crazy become stalkers, or fake pregnancies. Men who go crazy rape and kill us. It's safer to be selective. (Generalization, yes, but think about it.)
First of all, I don't think all men think this way. You think this way, and that's fine, and other people think their own way, and that's fine too. The whole "oh, you're just a man" thing is crap. Lot's of men are happy with monogamy, and lots of women aren't. This is about individuality not gender.
It's important to know yourself. If you are always attracted to other women, then monogamy might not work for you. I suggest that you try to find something which works better. If you need some combination of outside relationships, fuck buddies, or one night stands to make you happy then that's what you should look for. Just make sure that everyone understands what you want. Be honest with yourself and others.
Yarrrrrr. This isn't about monogamy. It's about guys wanting to bang every girl they see. Teachers, people in church, friends, friend's parents. Guys do a check-out, maybe an eye bang, and move on to the next girl. I'm sure some girls do this too.
Whether or not you chose to be monogamous is a personal decision independent of how horny you are.
Some people are okay with being monogamous and keeping these horny urges as fantasies in their head. Some people unleash the urges and explore the fantasy.
Doesn't have anything to do with the fact that most healthy males are horny around the clock and eye-banging you multiple times during that boring ass church session, class lecture, or whatever.
And actually, since men are amped up on Testosterone (usually) it is probably biologically sound to say that men are in fact more horny than women on average. Check out Kemloten's comment:http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/litpc/is_it_normal_to_want_to_have_sex_with_every_woman/c2t4lyy
You are making it a gender issue by bringing the gender issue up. Just like people are bringing the monogamy issue up. I'm totally down with talking about how society might be doing it wrong by pushing for monogamy, but that isn't what the spirit of this thread is about. And thus, I cringe at the straw men.
Edit: And on the biology issue of men always being horny, as if this hasn't been beat by every scientist like the dead horse that it is....but there are now self-testimonials of female-to-male transgendered folks who report they are suddenly super horny all the time after taking male hormones (testosterone). I believe it has been compared to the similar biological functions of drug addiction.
If you really loved someone, you will only have sex with them FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!! Um, no Peg.
Dude, you're about as normal as every man on the planet. There's a horribly accurate expression that goes something like: "Show me the hottest woman in a room and I will show you the guy who's tired of fucking her." Or as Bill Maher puts it: "Ladies if you get inside a man's head, you'll learn it's not about short or tall or fat or skinny or blonde or brunette... It's about OLD and NEW. Hugh Grant had Elizabeth Hurley at home, but he wanted Marvin Hagler in a wig."
In short, the urges will never stop and neither will the social stigma of a man's biological predisposition to want to fuck every NEW woman he comes across. In my experience, women begin to understand this when they hit their sexual peak at 35 -so don't get married to any woman under 35.
I hope I'm not coming off as sexist because there are a lot of women who feel the way you do now. I just think if men make millions of sperm a minute and women are born with all the eggs they'll ever need, maybe there's some biological mechanisms at play to determine each sexes breeding strategies. Is it really fair to define true love by the breeding strategy of one sex over the other?
Stay thirsty my friend.
Is it normal to want to have sex with every woman that is a little above average looking?
Only if you're a little better than average looking. If you're ugly, you should think about fucking ugly girls too.
in more serious news, everybody thinks about having sex with new people, even if they are in a sexually fulfilling relationship. Part of growing up is learning to manage your feelings and urges: you're always going to have them, so either cherish them and don't act on them if it'd ruin your life, or think about getting into an open relationship or polyamoury
The daydreams are the worst because they happen ALL the time, I feel like a need to find my sexual rhythm with a certain number of women in order to feel normal, jesus I sound like a heroin junkie
No joke, in the mental health field, the intense sexual desire for women that men have is compared to drug addiction.
A lot of interesting self-testimonies from female to male transsexuals suddenly freaking out that they are horny ALL THE TIME after taking male hormones.
I find it's easier to reframe the urges than to suppress them.
What I find is, there are a lot of women out there who I find really attractive until they open their mouths.
Given that with experience I've learned that I'm probably not going to want to have sex with a woman, 7 hours later when I could actually have a chance of doing so.
Given that, I just treat that few moments where seeing a beautiful woman for the first time causes an rush of good feelings as a nice moment without meaning. If I want these women now, I won't by the time I can have them, so it's just a moment where being a man has the added benefit of some extra euphoria.
It's your biological urge to spread your seed as far and wide as possible. IMPREGNANTE ALL THE WOMEN!
I predict you'll get to the point - and it might take another 10 years - where you're not going to want to bang all the things; but want to have an emotionally satisfying relationship with one special woman. Not saying you won't still get charged up by thinking about or gazing at other women.
I am a bit concerned by this thread. Nowhere has anyone mentioned the main biological reason for monogamy-offspring. Many single parents raise healthy, intelligent children, but without the second partner, resources, support and patience dwindle. In some societies, having a male around meant protection. It is certainly in the male's best interest, as well as the female's to make sure that the offspring is protected. Producing healthy,viable offspring is the primary reason we want to have sex with attractive partners. Thank whoever that science has made it possible to do this without offspring, but it's still the reason those urges are there.
I have been in a committed relationship for 6 years with a guy who is quite honestly my soul mate. It does exist, although it is rare. I believe that we are both above average in attractiveness. I know he wants to fuck other girls and he could, and I understand that. I want to fuck other guys, and he gets that too. But we don't. There aren't many other guys out there that would watch out for me the way he does, and there aren't many girls who would take care of him the way I do. Some relationships are about taking care of each other, and when necessary, raising offspring. Some relationships are about fucking until you are tired of that person, and that is okay too, as long as every party is on the same page.
Certain persons of Reddit, please stop knocking monogamy just because it isn't for you.
I ask not because I don't know my own body but because I would like to gather opinions on how other people deal with their incessant sexual urges Yeah, it bloody sucks. I wish i could get rid of it too but i don't think we can. I suppose it would be easier if we weren't bombarded with sexuality every single day. Or you could undergo voluntary chemical castration. No, not really, but there is really no other choice other than self control and cold showers.
This is something I experience too (also 25). Personally, I feel that every person is beautiful in their own way. And yes, I want to bang the hell out of almost everyone I see. Instead of just focusing on sex, I like to use this fascination and lust to genuinely appreciate the beauty in each of these people & just to foster more love for life, humanity and myself altogether. I understand that even though I would like to have sex with almost everyone, I won't. Some I won't due to the inappropriate nature of our relationship, others because the feeling isn't reciprocal or there's no opportunity. However, being in a polyamorous relationship, I've learned that these aren't necessarily wrongful desires, but simply a gateway to exploring & sharing more love.
Just respect & care for the people you engage with and you can both learn beautiful things about each other & yourselves. And always play safe ;-)
